So, no one told you life was gonna be this way. Your courses are a joke, you’re broke and your love life revolves around your latest Tinder match. It’s probably a good idea to have at least one person to be there for you when the rain starts to fall.
Friends, for me at least, are a pivotal part of school and life in general. Think of them as a family you have the opportunity to hand select. With that being said, of course they’re going to be there to love and support you in whatever you do, and hopefully let you know when you might be falling off track.
Having somebody to keep you focused, keep you sane and keep you entertained is key when it comes to making your way through university.
Odds are that coming into another year of school, you’re bound to meet at least one person you haven’t met before. So why not be their friend? Start up a conversation with the person sitting beside you in your lecture or seminar and maybe they will become your study buddy for the year. Sure, they might not become your best friend, but at least they can be someone to confide in and bounce ideas off when it comes to mid-term and exam time.
Another great way to meet new people is through O-Week and the entire first year experience. So for incoming students, university is essentially a tiny world of its own and there are so many diverse places and people you will discover and run into.
Living on campus, in residence, first year allows you to meet so many new people you wouldn’t normally have the ability to meet on your own. You get to know everyone on your floor or in your stairwell pretty well over the eight months that you’re living with them, so it’s always a good idea to be nice and try your best to be friendly to your neighbours.
There’s one huge difference you’re bound to notice between highschool and university. While you might be used to seeing the same faces every day during high school, university throws many news faces at you every day. With that, you’re brought so many new opportunities for budding relationships.
However, just because you have the chance to meet all these different people around campus, doesn’t mean friends you’ve made before you got here will fade away. I’m proud to say I’ve been best friends with the same people for seven years now, and it’s not uncommon. They’re weird, ridiculous and amazing all at the same time, and I know I can count on them for anything I’d ever need. And even though most of us go to different schools now and are even provinces away, it’s like nothing ever changed once we’re together again.
Some people may tell you once you get to university people start to drift apart, and it can be true. But that doesn’t have to be the case. Are you willing to let the people who used to mean the most to you blend into the background and become a happy memory or are you going to keep them front and centre where you can keep creating new chapters in your life?
Friendship is strange. Strange, but necessary. Think back to kindergarden when things were so simple: you’re playing with blocks and I’m playing with blocks – you’re now my best friend.
Compare it to now: please fill out this 40-question survey, complete with S.I.N. and health records; must reach at least 93 per cent compatibility and like dogs in order for this friendship to work. Also, follow me on Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr, etc.
So this year, get out embrace the friendships you have – new and old – and make sure you take advantage of them while you can. Bug them to go to the mall or watch a movie with you. Go to Port Dalhousie and check out the beach. Go out for brunch. Start a bookclub. Play some videogames. Edit each other’s essays. Do anything together and you’re honestly bound to have fun. That’s what friendship is for, right?
Rachel Sterzai, Opinion Editor