What does everyone want, but not everyone gets? To answer this riddle, you can think of a few different answers. Maybe a job, or a relationship? How about both? It’s that time of year again, when students are applying for jobs. You could be looking for a career or a part-time job just to pay the bills.
Whatever your reasoning is, you want a job. Finding a job or a relationship is not an easy task, it may take you a very long time. But for someone else, they might be in the lucking position of having employers begging them to come and work for their company. Although, in light of today’s economy, you probably have better chances of winning the lotter than you do having employers coming to your door with offers off work. In any case, here are seven reasons why a job is similar to a relationship:
Preparing your resume is like getting ready for a date, you want to look perfect and show off your best assets. Whatever your employer or your date is looking for, that is what you want them to see.
Once you get your name out there and show that you are available, you finally nail an interview or a hot date. You go out on a date and try your best to impress them with your charming personality and win them over with your great sense of humor. At the end of that date, it is up to them if they want a second one, or in this case, to hire you on.
Waiting for the call back
A couple days go by and you get a call back, saying they want you to join their team, or to go on another date. You start jumping for joy because after a long wait of trying out other jobs, or being in other relationships, this one seems like it is going to workout this time. You hear that subtle voice in the back of your head cheering you on, telling you this is the one! At this stage, we all get a little excited.
The honeymoon phase
It’s your first month on the job and each shift seems to only get better. You are learning things about yourself and your job that has only made you a better person. You wake up in the morning and realize how much you love your job, that it doesn’t feel like work at all. It was Sir Noël Coward, a famous English playwright, composer, director and actor who once said that you know you’ve really hit it big when your “work is more fun than fun.” This probably sounds a bit counterintuitive for many but when you think about it, it’s brilliant.
The feeling is similar when you first get into a relationship and are obsessed about each other. You just can’t seem to find anything wrong with your partner, and every day is just pure bliss.
The 1-year mark
So you’ve been at this job for a year now, its starting to feel like a bit of a drag. You are learning unpleasant things about the management, the company that annoys you and you start feeling every now and then that going into work is more of a chore than anything else. What happened to that spark?
Your partner turns out to be someone else, and you just aren’t feeling the connection you once had. The passion is lost. You no longer get excited over the small things in life. It just seems as if you’ve dug yourself into a routine that you want nothing more than to get yourself out of. What happened?
Searching for a new job
Enough is enough, you thought you could stick it out in the office for a few more months, but it has become too much. Work is no longer fun, you are too stressed out, and you are just not happy anymore. There is only one solution: time to find another job.
At this point you can quit if you are stable enough to go without a job or a relationship for a while, or try to find a new job and slowly ease out of the one you are currently in. Of course you cannot work one job, if you are in another one, but try to put yourself out there again, or maybe try to fix things at your current job or your relationship.
It’s never easy to leave, you feel like you have established a great connection with your boss and coworkers. You have made them your home away from home. You look at your partner, and realize it is just not going to work out. You had a good run, with many ups and downs, stressful days, happy times, good memories, but it is time to move on. For those who find themselves in such unfortunate circumstances, we know that our happiness depends on it.
The NEW job
After a few months of re-evaluating your life, the choices you made and taking what you learned from your last job and relationship, you have decided that you are ready for a new one. You find a new job in the hope that this one will be perfect for you, maybe even long-term. You never know, but the only thing you can do is put your best foot forward and hope for the best for a new start.
I’ve been told that you have at least five part-time jobs before your career. This will vary from person to person, but maybe it will take five relationships until you have found the one. No relationship or job is perfect, you just have to find one that best suits you and makes you grow as a person every day.